Love at First Sight

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“Am I going nuts! This is going to sound crazy, but from the moment I first laid eyes on you I have not been able to stop thinking about you.”

As cliche as love at first sight may sound, it is truly an experience of a lifetime. I am still able to remember the first girl I fell in love at first sight. Can you?

Love at first sight is not easy to explain. Some people deny that it is possible claiming it is merely sexual attraction. Indeed, how can we fall profoundly in love after one glance? How can such a glance make us believe that we want to spend the rest of our life in the arms of a stranger we have just seen for the first time? Is it our intuition or infatuation?

“Whoever loves, loves at first sight.” William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night.

Each and every one of us has created a subconscious mental image of our potential partner. When we walk into a room, without really realising it, we find ourselves liking a few potential partners. At times, a potential partner whom we are attracted to may start warming up to us or get attracted to us too. So does love at first sight work? It most definitely does!

Love at first sight may perish after a while also does not imply that it was not an intense love. Time is not an exclusive, or even the major, measure of intense love. On the contrary, romantic intensity is likely to subside and even to disappear after a while.

Love at first sight is essentially intense love. The great attractiveness strikes us like a flash of lightening and we wish to prolong the time we spend with the other person. All measures of romantic intensity, of what the lover believes about the beloved, the strength of the positive evaluation of the beloved and the measure and nature of the action readiness, are present in this response.

Love at first sight is not merely sexual attraction. It is an intense form of romantic love that has a good chance of developing into profound intense love, provided that the characteristics that are not seen at first sight are indeed similar to those the lover assumes and that no external circumstances occur to terminate the relationship.

We should be aware, however, that love at first sight is merely intense and not profound love; hence, there is always a possibility that this love will not become profound enough to sustain a long-time loving relationship.