It’s that time of the year. February, the month of LOVE.
LOVE; it is something that we all crave for. We are wired not only to want it, but need it as well to live. Love is not blind, deaf nor dumb; in fact Love sees far more than it will ever tell. It is going beyond and stretching ourselves for someone else.
Scientifically; when we love someone, our brain releases a collection of powerful chemicals, including pheromones, dopamine, nor-epinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin. These chemicals come into play regardless of the type of love, be it the love between parent and child, romantic love, etc.
“I love you”, conveys different meanings of love towards our family, friends and with the person we are in a relationship with. That one phrase holds many different meanings depending on who we say it to.
It is easy to understand what, love for family means. The bond created by blood is intense and not easily broken. While sometimes we may not like our family and they may get on our nerves, we continue to love them; most of the time. It is, in most cases, unconditional.
It is also easy to understand the love for friends. This is a love that we choose to give. It is when we are so close with our friend, that we view them as if they are part of our family. We have an emotional connection with that person and we see them as part of our life.
But what does it mean when we tell our boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife that we love them? More specifically, what does it mean to be ‘in love’? Being in love entails seeing someone as we wish they were; to love them is to see who they really are and still care for them. Love is not bitter, but we cannot experience love without pain.
Love means that we trust that person, would do anything for that person, know that he or she is with us through thick and thin.
A kiss becomes magical when we are ‘in love’. There will be no magic in a kiss if there is no love. Romantic love is not something that is planned. We can be open to falling in love and even take steps to put ourselves in the best position to encourage love to come our way, but we cannot decide how, when and where love expresses itself.
I encourage everyone of you to express your love, just say “I Love You” to your parents, your siblings, your friends and that special someone in your life. It is never too late to start.