The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When this happens to me, it is usually because I am focusing entirely on what I want and neglecting what I already have. When we only think about what we want, our mind creates explanations for why we are not getting it. This creates negative thoughts. Past failures, bad breaks and personal weaknesses dominate our mind. We become jealous of our competitors and start making excuses for why we cannot succeed. In this state, we tend to make a bad impression, assume the worst about others and lose self confidence.
The way to get out of this thought pattern is to focus on gratitude. Set aside time to focus on everything positive in our life. Make a mental list of our strengths, past successes and current advantages. We tend to take our strengths for granted and dwell on our failures; by making an effort to feel grateful, we will realise how competent and successful we already are. This will rejuvenate our confidence and get us motivated to build on our current success.
It might sound strange that repeating things we already know can improve our mindset, but it is amazingly effective. The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe. The more negatively we think, the more examples our mind will discover to confirm that belief. When we truly believe that we deserve success, our mind will generate ways to achieve it. The best way to bring success to ourselves is to genuinely desire to create value for the rest of the world.
The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. How often do we focus on what we do not want, rather than on a concrete goal? We normally think in terms of fear. I am afraid of being poor. I am afraid no one will respect me. I am afraid of being alone. The problem with this type of thinking is that fear alone is not actionable. Instead of doing something about our fear, it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.
If we are caught up in fear based thinking, the first step is focusing that energy on a well defined goal. By defining a goal, we automatically define a set of actions. If we have a fear of poverty, create a plan to increase our income. It could be going back to school, obtaining a higher paying job or developing a profitable business. The key is moving from an intangible desire to concrete, measurable steps.
By focusing our mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, we put our brain to work. It instantly begins devising a plan for success. Instead of worrying about the future we start to do something about it. This is the first step in motivating ourselves to take action. When we know what we want, we become motivated to take action.